"1 is the Loneliest Number"

Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 (NIV)

The month before college begin my sophomore year, I met my roommate. Well, we actually connected via telephone (before cell phones were the norm for EVERYONE) and had an hour long conversation.  We clicked immediately after finding out that we shared the same faith! I was excited at what God was going to do! Of course, from the beginning she was the main talker and I, the listener. I was okay with that. I believe God has us take on specific roles in our friendships.  As a result we can learn from one another and teach one another.

Now, my friendship with my best friend has shifted.
Distance and growth has played a part in tour shift. I have to admit I was saddened about 'losing' my best friend. I was resistant in building new friendships. But I realized that we have different types of friends. Many for seasons and few for a lifetime. We write letters and send cards to keep each other updated and in prayer.  As Paul in the New Testament wrote to his brothers and sisters far away, I will continue to encourage her and pray for her needs as a wife, mother[of a growing family], daughter, sister and friend.


"Carry each others' burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
                                                    -Galatians 6:2
Even with changes in our relationships it is extremely important that we continue to build the current and future ones by staying accountable to one another. "Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed"--James 5:16 No man is an island! Check up on each other, pray together, etc. I once heard someone say,

"The best way to be accountable to an invisible God is to be accountable to a visible man."

Stay committed to serving each other in love. Meeting as often as possible to keep the enemy at bay(small groups, prayer meetings, ministry work, etc.). Because in your loneliness the enemy chooses his battles.

How can you be a better friend? Be selfless! Pray for their needs. Make time to sit down and extend yourself.  Try being the friend you'd like to be with the help of the Holy Spirit! "...everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." --James 1:19b-20

I have learned that friendship is like other relationships we develop.  To keep them strong, you must work at it. Prayer, fellowship, letters of encouragement and above all else LOVE have kept my relationship with my best friend intact. Its much easier when we focus on Christ.

We were all made for community. God called us to love! Don't believe the lie you can do it on your own. With Christ-centered friendships we can be confident that He has everything under control.

"Love is patient, love is kind..." - 1 Corinthians 13:4

 Kitanya works with kids in an after-school program with Groundwork Inc., create handmade items (from baked goods to cards) and blogs in her spare time: iamkitanya.wordpress.com and kitkreate.wordpress.com  
She also the eldest and shortest of 3 children raised in the faith. Dedicated her life as a teen & ever learning about our awesome Abba, Father!